The Relationship Centre for Couple Counselling. A place for Couples in Hampshire and Dorset
The Relationship Centre is for any couple who are looking for a better relationship, whether it’s to improve on a good relationship to make it a wonderful one, or if it’s a relationship in crisis that needs help. We were originally based in Harley Street, central London, but now work in Hythe on the edge of the New Forest and also Alresford near Winchester in Hampshire. We see clients from Alton, Hythe, Southampton, Alresford, Winchester, Lymington and other areas. The centre is a Hub for not just Psychotherapy, but also research, training and couple counselling, supervision and relationship coaching. Most people think of couple counselling as being a last resort when things are really bad, and crisis point has been reached. This doesn’t have to be the case. Many relationships benefit in a big way by using couple counselling as a way of sorting out minor issues in the relationship, before they grow into resentment and arguments. Sometimes couple counselling can be used to help a relationship end in a positive way, so any anger or resentment is left in the counselling room, and not taken into their new life as separate people.
Why are we different?
Couple counselling can sometimes be that a counsellor sits back and ‘allows’ you to talk and find your own solutions. This approach can work with individuals, but often couples using this approach find they just end up arguing their way through the session, and couples instead need an approach which gives some guidance on how to repair a broken relationship. We not only offer a coaching approach which will give you tools to help with this, but we base much of our work on the Gottman Method. The Gottman’s are a married couple of Psychologists and therapists who have studied relationships for over 40 years, so their work is evidenced based. We also use the approaches from some of the best know and proven therapists and training, and is a pro-active approach, giving you different things to try in the relationship, rather than just talking about it. This means the structure of our relationship counselling has been proven to work successfully and includes giving you new skills and understanding to make your relationship the best it can be, and perhaps is very different in approach to relate counselling.
We use a variety of approaches and techniques to help you work through your relationship problems. Techniques include: open discussions, conflict management and analysing negative patterns of behaviour. Many couples are apprehensive if they haven’t been in therapy before, but it’s not about blames or attack, it’s about understanding and all working together to help the relationship repair and flourish.
Some of the issues a couple bring to therapy might be; an affair has taken place, sex (or lack of it) has become an issue, a new baby has impacted on the relationship, or it may be time has eroded away the good romantic feelings and it’s a struggle to get them back. What ever the reasons, the counselling room is a place where you are not judged, and is not a place where one partner is seen as right and the other as wrong, but more a confidential space where you can both explore how to make the relationship stronger and better. Another area of work is helping older couples who are moving into the last trimester of their life and how this impacts on their relationship.
We also work with any aspect of relationships or broken relationships. This might be as a couple but often can be individual affected by some type of relationship. This might be;
You are a victim of a relationship scam via the internet.
You are grieving a loss of a relationship (through death or an ending of a relationship.)
You see a destructive pattern in the relationships you have and want to explore this.
Addiction to porn is destroying a relationship.
You have relationship issues with your children/parents or work colleagues.
You’ve never had a serious relationship and want to explore the angst around this.
Sex is an issue in the relationship or individually, and Psycho-sexual therapy is needed.
You are finding yourself attracted to a person who isn’t your partner, and you want to explore this.
We have selected Saturday Crisis / Emergency Appointments available. These are for a couple in crisis who need a counsellor ASAP……read more
“Lets not forget it’s you and me vs. problem. Not you vs. me” -anon
“You cant just give up on someone just because the situation is not ideal. Great relationships aren’t great because they have no problems. They’re great because both people care about the other person to find a way to make it work.” -Unknown
We offer Supervision for Counsellors
working with Couples
Memberships of main recognised and approved Associations
THE GOTTMAN INSTITUTE: A RESEARCH-BASED APPROACH TO STRENGTHENING RELATIONSHIPS
Tom and Tina are fully Accredited members of The National Counselling Society. The society features here in a news item