Support Group for Men who have been unfaithful.
no judgement, no blame, just support to learn, grow and recover
What is this group? It’s an online group to help men understand themselves and their behaviours to become the best version they can be. Often books and support groups offers support to the betrayed partner, not so much for the person who has had an affair. For men who have a more solution focused approach to life, it can feel easier being in support around other men rather than a female driven approach.
Who runs the group? Tom facilitates the group. He is a relationship coach of 20 yrs experience.
How does it work? The group (up to 8 people) meets online (Wednesday mornings currently) every week for 1.5hrs. Tom sends you a link that you click at the start of the meeting. As the meeting progresses you have a chance to ask questions, talk through your experiences, get advice and feedback or just feel you are not alone with your struggles. Everyone is there for everyone else, and everyone can help the others even if it’s just by asking general questions. Tom will manage the meeting and also offer his feedback from his experiences and knowledge of someone who has worked with many hundreds of people recovering from the fall-out of an affair. Although all of you will be in a different part of the journey, this can help others in the group, so collectively there is a route through all this confusion, shame and angst.
What is the cost? The fee is £45 per meeting. You have to commit to 6 meeting per time, once this 6 is completed you can commit to another 6 to continue. We ask the first 3 sessions are paid in advance, the next 3 at the end of the third session.
I’m not sure I feel comfortable talking in front of others. This is natural and at first it can feel awkward for most, but gradually it becomes a more positive and easier experience as it progress. The advantage of a group is that you are all ‘in the same boat’ and therefore a level of understanding is already developed. You only share personal information to the point you feel comfortable with, for example, where you live, your profession etc. so there is a certain amount of anonymity in the group.
What do I do next? Email to aplaceforcouples@gmail.com and in the subject box write ‘support group for men’ Tom will then pick this up and give you details of the current availability for joining a group.